I had my second marriage proposal in two months this past weekend. Granted, it was from a 30 year old who might have had one too many beers while we were watching the UFC fight in Minneapolis, so it probably didn't even count. I'm pretty sure it didn't. But what did count was his complete openess to just strip away the pretenses and, just for a moment, be completely vulnerable. Regardless of the Corona in h...

It's domestic violence awareness month. It has been every October. And every year I let this month go by in relative silence. In part because I have only recently come to grips with what I have experienced. Only recently come to grips with understanding why I stayed. And only recently found my voice to connect other women with the help they need on their journey to safety and recovery. I am no expert. In fa...

I am guilty. I've dated guys that need help. Like serious help. Specifically my serious help. Or at least that is the story I have told myself that enables me to stay in a relationship that is...well...not a completely...ahem...healthy relationship. It's fun, at first...to feel like you are needed. To feel wise and smart. To feel like you are making a difference in someone else's life...but damn...it's hard...

Go ahead. Finish that senetnce. Fill in the blank. I know it has been on your mind lately. The things we need to accomplish before true happiness walks into our life. The bills we need to pay before we can really start enjoying life. The people that need to change so that our lives can be filled with more grace and ease. The love that needs to appear so that we can feel more fulfilled. The house that needs...

I had so many incredible emails from all of you regarding my post on letting go (read it here). We are all deep in this process. We are all feeling the many changes that are happening all around us. We are all finding comfort in knowing we are in this together...we are not alone...even if sometimes it may feel that way.

This year, I have had a lot of practice in letting go. Letting go of people, ideas on wha...

I watched a movie the other day. If you know me, this is a rarity in my household. We have a tendency to not create a lot of time for movies, but lately...well...I have really been enjoying the distraction. But this particular movie, 28 Days, really got me thinking.  The character, Gwen (played by Sandra Bullock) is an alcoholic. Like most, she drinks to cover pain and escape the beauty all around her. She...

It's happening again. Like we all knew it would. Like we all have come to expect. This time of year, in the Midwest, when the leaves start to change color into the bright oranges, yellows and reds. When everything around us looks and feels different. The air is a bit cooler, the colors more vibrant, the breath a bit deeper. Change is upon us...and there is really nothing we can do except observe and feel. W...

I stepped off the plane last week, being out of town for two weeks. So much has changed in just that short time. The weather is cooler, the grass is taller...thanks to a friend, my house is clean...my ten year old has decided to go to school this year. My 18 year old is making plans to move out and start his own new adventure. And me? I am rewriting a story I thought I was done writing. 

I didn't think...

I am not the kind of girl that gets what she wants. I sometimes don't even get what I need, despite knowing exactly what that is. And although it has often times been a struggle to continually allow this to happen, I take full responsibility. And most of the time, I forgive myself for bending too much, being too flexible or putting your needs ahead of mine. Most of the time. But some of the time I keep doin...

You know me. I don't always play by the rules. I am not one to hide behind the shoulds. And although I care deeply what you think of me, it doesn't stop me from stepping up in such a transparent way, it sometimes might make you feel uncomfortable. You see...I have earned this. I have struggled to get here. I have worked hard to be able to know it is ok to show up fully. Because if I didn't, you would be lov...